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FILERS


“He is annoying”, “She is disgusting” “Oh! I can’t stand him, because he is so mean”, “That girl irritates me”, “I can’t just bear their disturbance”. Do these register of clauses sound familiar to you? Can you relate with any of these based on series of experience? Do they bring to life your encounter with some people? With high level of certitude, I can say that at some point in time of our life, we can’t help but come in contact with divergent people that will eventually leave us uttering one or more of the above collection of words.
My four years in school offered me the privilege and platform to come across divergent and different personality and disposition of people. From the informal life of the hostel, to the formal life of the class, to my one on one contact with friends and colleagues and even to social centres and gatherings. Some made me smile while others made me cry, some made me sad while some gave me immense joy that thought of them right now gladdens my heart, some used me, took advantage of me and even treated me as nothing; some out of their sincere heart gave me their best, yet others from a humble heart brought out the best in me.
These past years, God has thought me despite my many weaknesses through all these available life experiences and encounters that for me to get along with people of different characters and disposition, I must first learn to get along with Him in all spheres of my life. Honestly, though it hasn’t been juicy but it has helped me in accommodating and tolerating people that ordinarily I cannot in anyway naturally on my own accord accommodate them. I am not there yet, but God through these people and similar situations is daily preparing me for the life ahead.
The people you daily encounter in life that suit and fit into the clauses of words given from the beginning can be referred to as “Filers”. Just like ladies file their nails to look smooth and beautiful, so also these people are meant to file your life, preparing you to be ready for the life that lies ahead of you. From the onset, the feeling and experience might seem a little bit hellish, but as time goes on, you will realize that you are beginning to create a space for them in your heart; their actions and inactions no longer annoy, irritate and disgust you as before, just know that the filing of your life is taking place.
It  is worthy of note to know that the entire duration of your filing process is largely determine by how fast, willing and humble you are ready to learn, adjust and create a space in your heart for others. True, the experience will displease you, stretch you and even push you to the limit; but would you rather endure the pain of filing now and enjoy the gain of being in shape for great efficacy and relevance later, or would you chose to leave your life unfiled now and suffer irrelevance in the future? Running down history, it is glaring that men and women whom were trailblazers, were all shaped and filed by their several encounters with people and situations. Thus, for you to do or chose otherwise is tantamount to rendering yourself unfit for every usefulness and relevance.
In as much as God has a plan for you, plan for good and not evil, to give you a future, a hope and expected end, he must first prepare you through many life experiences, which will come through the people you encounter daily. He must file you daily; removing from you all the unwanted aspect of your life, making you smooth to fit into his purpose for your life. Look beyond the physical; appreciate the people that come your way daily whether they are good or bad, annoying or exciting. They can be nauseating, irritating and disgusting, just create room for them in your heart. At the end you will realize that they are all “filers” – filing you to be ready, in shape and fit for all that pertains to life, godliness and fulfillment of purpose. (Guteng 2016©)


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