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FIRST THING FIRST

 

Our Default Setting 

So I have a friend who has this significant order he looks up to a lot. He has made it in life as an international professor based in the United State and has all the right connections (if you get what I mean). My friend had this deeply ingrained mindset back then in school that once he is done with undergraduate studies, getting employed will not be an issue for him. Five years down the line, he is still pulling and pushing through life to make both ends meet. What happened to the hope he had of being helped by his significant order? Quashed.


I know you can relate to this story, you might have heard similar experiences with people you look up to fail you, disappoint you, and let you down. Nigerians believe that the easiest way to get disappointed and useless in life is to look up to your uncle. (How true is this? you judge for yourself). Such is life as we see it. At the end of the day, your help and lifting may or may not come through such people that you look up to. 


The Ideal Setting

Should it be this way? Don't we deserve to be helped by the people we look up to? Truth is, man naturally is selfish. Now don't get me wrong, here is the fact, every man without the help of God thinks only of himself (I pray you don't misquote or misunderstand me here). 


What then should be our ideal setting in life to avoid being disappointed by men? I reckon that is to count on God and not men. The first variable in this series of making life count is to count on God - I see this as doing the first thing first. 



To count on God is to trust Him, believe Him, and stake all you are and will become on Him. See, it doesn't matter your religion, but one thing I know is that you believe and have faith in a supernatural being. Even if you don't believe, your disbelief is also a belief. Am I now saying men are of no use to your life? By no means. Succinctly, almost everything you will achieve in life will be done with men and will come through men, you need people in life. The point here is, count on men only using God's metrics, look up to them only through God's lenses and He will send the right and needful people your way. 


It Starts Now

Your journey to making life count begins with first counting on God. Don't count on men and get disappointed only to end up blaming God. God is no respecter of man, if you honor and count on Him, He will make your life count by blessing you with countless men of value. 


Life - make it count, count on God first. 

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  1. BanDashan13 September 2021 at 11:51

    God is the surest 'plug'

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  2. Unknown13 September 2021 at 15:07

    It's so inspiring and encouraging.
    We live in a generation where there is hight rate of suicide cause by men, because they have put the whole on man, and always counting on men

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