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5 WAYS TO REMAIN UNDEFEATED IN LIFE

 


This piece is an aftermath of an online freelance writing application I did few months ago, however, regardless of why I wrote it in the first place, sharing it with you guys is worth it.

Winning is one word everyone loves to associate with, but very few people are ever prepared for it. Defeat on the other hand is the antithesis of wining and victory; and the truth is, no one is ever ready to taste defeat in life, yet most people are planning for defeat by not preparing for victory in life. We all live and exist in time and space, what we do with these two largely determine the outcome of our lives at the end of the day as to whether we win or lose, first to ourselves then to our families and our immediate communities.

Running down the path of history, it is obvious that those who left a scratch on the sand of time were men and women who were guided by certain principles in life, they fought the battle of life by those guiding rules and their various victories serve as blueprints for us today. This piece may not be exhaustible, but to remain undefeated in life, I believe the following guide posts will be helpful as you travel through life.

#1 Define Your Identity

Who you are is the basic and primary question of life you need to answer first before any other thing. Your ability to answer this question makes all the different in everything you do in life because it serves as the basic foundation upon which all other things are built upon. As you read this piece, permit me to ask you this direct and soul searching question: who are you? Do you know your identity? As a pointer, I may not know you but I know few things that are true about you: I know that you are the only you that will ever be, a masterpiece, a limited edition and a one of a kind art work of God. Use these sentences and add to the definition of who you are.

#2 Live Purposefully

It was Myles Munroe who said that “the greatest tragedy in life is not dead but a life without purpose”. After defining your “WHO” in life which is your identity, the next crucial bus stop is your “WHAT or WHY” which defines your purpose in life. Your purpose is what you have been singled out to do even before time began, it is that special menu that only you can serve the world prepared from your own particular recipe. Your purpose may be similar with that of another but will never be the same. It is your purpose that keeps you from harmful comparison, unhealthy competition, and needless compartmentalization, also, your purpose determines the goals you set in your life. Hence to remain not only undefeated in life but relevant, you need to define your identity and purpose.

#3 Take One Step/Day at a Time – Trust the Process

Defining your identity is good, discovering your purpose is amazing, however, understanding and sticking with the process that leads to fulfilling your purpose is very focal.  In between purpose discovery and fulfilment is the process (More on “Trusting the Process” will come subsequently). Hence, taking each day as it comes enables us to go through the process of making with a positive attitude. Yes, the process may not be palatable, but do not quit or put off living because the process is hard. Is it funny but rather pathetic how so many people are putting off living today because of the regrets of yesterday and the uncertainties of tomorrow? To remain undefeated in life, you have to let go of the hurts/regrets of yesterday because it is a closed door, live in the moment and make the best out of today knowing fully well that tomorrow will handle itself.

#4 Look Out For the Best in Others

A life of purpose is a life of impact, relevance and efficacy. No one lives for his or herself, we live to serve one another in one way or the other through our different yet equally important purposes. Looking out for the best in others is another important ways to stay undefeated in life, this is simply because we rise by lifting others up. I dare you this day to constantly look out for the best in others, give them a push, light up their candle whenever and wherever you can, the reward will overwhelm you.

#5 Learn Everyday

As long as you are alive, you are a student of life, the day you stop opening your heart to learn, you die even while you live. Learning is what makes you better, it is what challenges the beliefs you have held tightly but erroneously yesterday, it is what improves you and makes you a better person than you were yesterday. Live life learning every day, learn from your experiences and that of others, and learn also through observation, books and people. Do this and you are on your way to victory in life.

To wrap this up:

These few ways I talked about may not be exhaustive or exclusive, but applying them will set you apart from the crowd that are just passing through the motion of life. Define your identity, live purposefully, take each day at a time while trusting the process, look out for the best in others, learn every day and your life will leave trails for those coming behind.

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