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SEEING THE BEST IN OTHERS

I begin this piece with “perspectives”, which is the evaluation and assessment of a situation or a person from one's point of view. It is actually no news that we all have our perspectives as uniquely designed individuals, with which we view, assess and categorize the unfolding of events in day-to-day life. Hence your perspective can either open you up to an entirely new discovery about life in others and events or cage and limits you within the walls of yourself.

Have you ever imagined if the world only revolves around your perspective? Or better still, what would have happened if everything is all about what and how you see things? Come to think of this, where will the world be if it is to see things through your own lenses? You see, there is more to life than what meets the eye. We are meant to be each other’s stepping stone to greatness.

Having talked a bit about perspectives, I would want to keep the ball rolling with the fact that there is this divine perspective in us that is meant to see and bring out the best in others. It is that lens that focuses on the strength of others, blurring all their seeming feebleness so as to capture every ounce of greatness in them. This perspective places others first, ensuring that in all things and at all times, the best in others is brought to fore.

Seeing the best in others is like a mirror; while you daily thrive to see the best in others, you in turn see the reflection of the best in yourself. People that desire to see the best in others are like the light bulb that while illuminating and dispensing light to others, it doesn’t become dim or less lightly, but know consciously that it is just fulfilling the reason of its creation.

No one has all it takes to become the best; we all need each other’s compliments and complement to achieve greatness.  When you want to see the best in others, you automatically become a student of life, ever learning from experience how to let your actions and relationship with others speak for you; honestly they will indeed speak louder than the  loudest voice.

What our generation lacks is the crop of men and women that desire to see the best in others, all we have is the crop of men/women that daily celebrate “I, me and myself” and seeing others attaining great feat in life sparks up hate, envy and jealousy in them. Certainly, you will not be the only one to achieve greatness in life and helping others achieve greatness cannot in any way stop you from being the best.

There is this prevailing error and myth in our time that needs to be corrected with urgency. This error believe that helping others to become the best makes us less, it further posited that lifting someone to achieve greatness will make them overtake us. This erroneous myth would have been true if God is to be a man. You see, we all have our lives marked out for greatness, and we are all meant to be part of each other’s life. Hence, just like a chain, we are as strong as our weakest link.

There is this surpassing excellence in you that can only be revealed to you and the world when you have set up your mind on seeing and bringing out the best in others. This excellence is somehow dormant and locked up deep inside of you, and can only be activated by reaching out to ensure that others become the best even in the most little way. The more you reach out, the more active your greatness and excellence.

True joy, peace and fulfilment come from seeing others experiencing them, because greatness is reciprocal. When you see the best in others you are just bringing out the best in yourself. When you light up other people’s candle, it doesn’t put out your own fire. See the best in others; don’t always put yourself first because there is more to this life than the box of “I, me and myself.

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