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What I will share today concerns us all. I have been guilty, you have been guilty in one way or the other, we all have fallen prey to it as well in some ways. Don't feel confronted if this picks you out, the essence is to help us all overcome it and become better versions of ourselves. 


Over the years, I have talked with many young people who came to me with one issue or another, and most of these conversations border on self-development and personal growth. What I have observed with most if not all of those young people is that they have made excuses to be their best ally in the journey of life. 


So let's talk about excuses. 

We live in a generation laced with the culture of young people not owning up to their choices, responsibilities, and/or irresponsibilities. The blame game is thriving, people are always finding a scapegoat for what they do or failed to do.

 


Excuses! Excuses!! Young people are always inventing excuses to not live as they should, to not take responsibility, to not grow, to not learn, to not become better versions of themselves, to not stretch and go out of their comfort zones, to not stop some addictive detrimental attitudes and the list can go on. 


This is the picture I see whenever I converse with young people. They have a barrage of wishes and good intentions but a carriage full of excuses. Sadly, they don't know that the strongest of wishes and intentions can be rubbished by the weakest of excuses. My candid and humble submission to them at the end of the day has always been that if excuses are thriving in their lives, they will not make headway. So the way out is to deal with your excuses and go through the pain of taking up responsibility.


I see excuses as the needless avoidable non-justifiable explanations given to explain away one's inability to take responsibility for his or her words and actions or inactions. Excuses have hindered a lot of young people from living life to the fullest and making their lives count. Excuses are akin to complaints and a life that thrives on excuses will never be efficient and productive. 



If you are looking for excuses not to do anything in life and with your life, you will find a thousand and more excuses. Our generation is generous with vices and excuses. Please, tattoo this on your brain, excuses are chains, and the more you have them the more you go nowhere. The longer your chain of excuses is the tighter you will be chained up. Some of us go through great ordeals and a great lane just to give excuses of why we didn't do anything. 


I believe you get the gist now, and I know you can glaringly see the excuses that you are accommodating in your life. Will you work on them or will you devise another excuse for why they should stay? No one will do this for you but you. 


Get rid of excuses,  go through the pain of taking responsibility, and know that the excuses you are making today will be your greatest undoings tomorrow. 


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